Why do our most intense romantic passions so often end in disaster? There is an insight which can help us unravel this mystery: Our most painful attractions actually arise from our deepest intimacy gifts. This post will help you recognize your own attractions of deprivation, but, even more important, it will help you identify the […]

If I could only share one insight with my single readers, it would be this: Learn to distinguish between your “attractions of deprivation” and your “attractions of inspiration.” Then, only follow your attractions of inspiration.  Read More 

If you.re looking for love, there.s great reason to be hopeful. As a psychotherapist who specializes in the search for intimacy, I.ve seen that healthy love is closer than we think.if we just change the way we look for it. Read More 

What offers wisdom and pleasure, is free, and can change your entire romantic future? A dating buddy. A dating buddy is a friend and co-coach in one of the most defining tasks of your life; your search for a mate. If you follow no other suggestion than this one, your dating life will change. Read […]

The most common way we sabotage new love possibilities is through what I call the Wave of Distancing (or simply, the Wave). The Wave occurs when we unconsciously push a caring and available person away by inwardly diminishing his or her worth. Our lack of training in the phenomenon of the Wave has led to […]

I’m Ken Page, LCSW, a psychotherapist whose work focuses on the search for intimacy. I’m delighted to begin this blog for single people and those who support them in their growth. It’s a subject very close to my heart. Read More