Wow, beautiful posts…thank you for sharing. So I have done my homework, I know what to look for in an attraction of inspiration…I pray, I meditate, I visualize and have an idea of the qualities of what to look for in a partner. I need to set boundaries and stick up for myself which will make me sound/act like a bitch, which is what my mother was and I always swore I would never be like her…How do I learn to be assertive and honest, like what Kandice was talking about, without the fear of of coming off like a bitch which in my mind will lead to rejection and abandonment?